How to Get Her Phone Number
May 18th, 2009 by allisLet’s be honest, approaching women isn’t easy. It can be awkward, embarrassing, and downright difficult. But, like most things in life, if you know what you are doing it’s easier and with a little practice you can get good at it. To get her number you need to follow a procedure that will give you 100% results. Learn three simple steps that will help you get her number in no time.
When approaching women you should concentrate on three things:
- setting her at ease
- impressing her
- getting her number
Setting her at ease
Why is this important? Women get approached more than you think by weirdo’s and perverts. For this reason, women automatically put up their defenses when a guy approaches them. Thus you have to work towards dropping their defenses. For that you need to be yourself, be friendly, smile, and keep the mood light. Don’t act as if you are there to pick her up. Just carry on a conversation, chat, make jokes, don’t be afraid to disagree with her, tease her. Do anything that will make her feel comfortable with you. Treat her like you would anybody else and she will notice and drop her barriers.
Impressing her
In order to get her number you definetly have to impress her and make her feel confortable with you. Because when you ask for her number she will think “Do I really want this guy calling my house?” Basically, she decides how much she likes you. The guys that don’t impress her get rejected and the one’s she is interested in get the number. So to impress her you need to be confident, gentle and caring. Talk to her about herself. Keep the conversation focused on her as much as possible. Letting her take control of the conversation ensures she won’t get bored, let’s you learn more about her, and keeps you from saying something stupid. Do NOT make the mistake of talking about yourself in an effort to increase her interest. It does NOT work that way. Also, don’t drag the conversation out any longer than necessary.
Finally :: Getting the number
Finally the time will come to leave. Before that you need to get her number. So be confident and just ask for it. If you have played your cards right, the girl might give you her number without you asking for it. But don’t wait for that. Just ask her, “Can I get your phone number?” Don’t chicken out. If you think this is too direct then you can give her a reason to give you her number. For example, instead of saying, “Can I get your number?” say, “Can I get your number so that we can do something this weekend?” or, “I’d like to get in touch with you again, can I get your number?” This will improve your chances IF you managed to impress her.
In the end, remember that if you don’t get her number, it is not the end of the world. Don’t be frustrated because you approached 5 girls and none of them gave you their number. You will succeed someday. Just be optimistic.